the first visit

This was from a week or so ago, but I think it's good background, especially for any posts about this particular group of people in the future...

"I got a call from Mama Dukes yesterday. (That’s Donnie’s mom, Mackenzie’s paternal Grandma) *I think that’s the right term for that side’s relation to her…*

They are coming up this weekend, which doesn’t give me much time to clean and prepare. I kinda always knew it would be relatively last minute when they let me know, but this whole time I thought it would be just Donnie and his mom…especially cuz I have it on good authority that there are issues between him and his wife…a woman that I don’t very much like although I’ve never met her.

I’ve done my research and found that she is not the woman Donnie led me to believe she was. “A good girl” One that doesn’t smoke, hardly drinks, doesn’t do drugs….when in fact, she herself wrote a comment to one of her friends on her own status that she was rollin’ one night. For those of you that don’t know, ROLLIN’ is a slang term used when talking about doing ecstasy. I learned this while I was with Donnie, because he and his family used to be into drugs when he was younger. I heard stories about “rollin’ parties” and whatnot. (apparently this chick isn’t too bright, cuz I’m on her friends list.) Any smart person would know not to incriminate yourself on a public site, especially not when the mother of your husband’s child is a friend on that site. But then again, if you pursue a guy after finding out that he’s gay and insist that you will change him, you can’t be too bright to begin with. Donnie is a pushover, so of course with his dad giving him hell about his sexuality and a hot girl that he gets along with really well pursuing him, OF COURSE he went for it! Hell, that’s pretty much how he and I got together in the first place! Except I didn’t know that he was gay! Anyways, this is not meant to be a rant about MY failed relationship, so moving back to HER. On top of this, this chick is a total slut. She wears slutty clothes all the time, and sleeps around. Hell, the night Donnie first got with her, she was messing around with some other chick, and then she sleeps around with guys too. I’m not all that surprised that she would have SOMEONE on the side, what with her husband being GAY and all, but she’s lying to him about it, until she gets caught. I could understand if they had an arrangement because of the whole gay issue, but to just go do it and lie is not right.There is more to that issue I’m sure, what with how nobody wants to tell me about it…and I guess technically it’s not any of my business…but you better believe that I don’t feel comfortable with that woman being around my child without supervision. SO….with all that said…moving on…

Mama Dukes, Donnie, HIS WIFE, and then Mackenzie’s cousins Will and Adrian (a baby and a youngin’) will be coming up to visit for the weekend. Thank GOD they are not staying with us. I keep my composure most of the time, but to have the two of them in front of me for the first time AND having to deal with them sleeping in my house?? NO! That would have been just too much!

So, now I have to get AT LEAST the upstairs perfectly clean. And at least try to get the downstairs presentable. There is just a lot of stuff that needs to be dealt with around here, and Mom just hasn’t had the time nor resources. After this summer, everything will be fine, cuz we’ll have a yard sale after Mom finishes going through everything. But, in the meantime, I’m going to need for our small place to be big enough for everyone to be in to visit.

On the bright side, they are bringing stuff up for the baby….clothes, and whatnot. So that’ll be good. I still wonder what her reaction to Donnie will be though. As far as she knows, Joey is Daddy. He sees her all the time, he buys stuff, he goes by Daddy. Hell! He cut the cord, so it’s kinda his right. He didn’t have to be here, but he is. HE stuck by my side through the whole labor. HE took paternity leave to stay with me and the baby the first week. Donnie didn’t do that, even though we offered to take him back home, or get a flight for him to go back if he wanted to. Donnie wouldn’t even cut the cord, although the doctor offered it to him first. So now, Donnie will be in her face saying the word “Daddy” and she’s going to be looking for HER daddy Joey. She won’t know the man in front of her is her FATHER. But Father sounds so old fashioned and well…just OLD, to call him. Maybe just Dad…? I dunno. Joey and I decided that we’ll let her decide and when she’s old enough, if she asks why there are two dads, we’ll explain it. And we’ll explain why it’s okay to call both dads what she feels comfortable with and why it’s okay that she calls her step mom by HER actual name and not mommy when she has two daddy’s. After all, one of her dad’s is her actual dad and the other is the one that takes care of her, while one of her “mom”s is both her actual mom AND the one that takes care of her and the other is ONLY her step mom and has absolutely no important role in her life. I may not word it quite like that, but that’s the way I feel about it.

So now you have a little background into what’s going on at the moment. We’ll see how it goes, I’ll be sure to keep people posted on the situation."